 PHOTO CREDIT http://wgadesign.com/graphics/perspective.html Why do people react so differently to identical messages? If you’re speaking to a group, why are some people spellbound and others completely indifferent? If you tell a joke, why does one person roar with laughter while another person doesn’t even move a muscle? A lot of it has to do with our own internal mental software or what in NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) is called “metaprograms”. “Meta” means to go above, thus metaprograms are the programs that run our programs. They are our most unconscious internal screening and sorting mechanisms. It is how we decide what to pay attention to or not, and what we do with that information once we have it. To function at all, we have to decide what to delete, distort and generalize of all the information coming at us at any given time. It is our own unique filing and sorting system and our way of coping with the world. For example, do you move towards a carrot or away from a stick? (Are you motivated by desire or by pain?) Do you notice what is the same in situations, or only what is different? Do you make decisions based on how you think or on how you feel? Do you like things to be outlined, planned and orderly, or do you prefer to be more flexible and spontaneous? Do you know if you’ve done well by a feeling inside or does some one else have to tell you? Do you like to know all the details first or the big picture first? Are you concerned mostly about yourself, mostly about others, or a little bit of both? Are you motivated because you have to do something or because you want to? Are you convinced something is true right away or does it take a number of times or a period of time? Are you proactive or reactive? These are only some of the metaprograms. Of course, how we sort and react may be different in different contexts. Generally we may favour one way of thinking or feeling about things more than another. We may lean a little to one way, we may use both equally, or we may swing way over to one side in certain situations. They are preferences, and we may use the full range of them over any given day. They may change over time and be different depending on our emotional state at the moment. There is no right or wrong way to do these, although some metaprograms work better in certain contexts. What is important is if you can act in the most useful way for the task you have to do. It’s also possible to change your metaprograms. If you’re moving toward something, your brain is deleting what there is to move away from. If you’re moving away, your brain is deleting what there is to move toward. To change your metaprograms, all you need to do is become aware of what you are deleting and begin to focus your attention on them. There are things you want to move away from such as a hot fire, a dangerous lifestyle, etc. But aren’t there things you would really like to move towards? Isn’t that what gives you control and what great leaders do? By becoming aware of these patterns you can consciously change them and get more of what you want in life as well as communicate better with others. Understanding other peoples’ metaprograms can help you be an effective communicator, in both your career and personal life. When you fail to get your message across, often it isn’t the content of what you are saying that needs to change, but rather the ability to be flexible and alter it’s form to more closely fit the thinking styles of those you are communicating to. If you are speaking to a group of people, use the whole spectrum if need be, i.e., “here’s what we want to accomplish and here’s what we need to avoid.” In discussing this, it is also important to realize that people are NOT their behaviours, they HAVE behaviours. People are always doing the best they can, given their life experiences. People have all the resources they need to make changes if they want to. They may just need new information or different strategies to assist them. © 1998-2014 - Monika Nygaard, MA, is a Certified Trainer of Neuro Linguistic Programming, Time Based Therapies and Hypnotherapy, as well as having her own private practice. She can be reached at 250-246-2460 or [email protected] or www.quantumchangenlp.com. "I have now been to 3 of Monika's trainings. Her Practitioner and Master Practitioner NLP full course trainings as well as her Advanced NLP Counselling training. I loved taking Monika's courses because she is from the old school methods of teaching and I felt she was thorough, gave us as much as she could, spent time with the most important pieces and was very open to hearing our suggestions. Her own extensive training in so many areas is what sets her above many other trainers in this field and made her classes more than what came in the binder and that is why I keep going back to her. Monika is a down to earth, high integrity trainer and has become a friend I admire. NLP has allowed me to breakthrough my own debilitating panic attacks that were a result of many deeper issues. I am now a successful home based entrepreneur and know that because of NLP I have the ability to build rapport quickly and authentically share my products and services with others and I can provide high value for my colleagues, business partners teams, clients and customers. Thank you Monika, I know I will see you again soon! Your work is amazing, please keep sharing it Monika." ~ Tammra Broughton Wow, as I was being interviewed on Dream Visions 7 Radio (Boston fm station) on Saturday and reviewed my life story, I couldn't believe how calm I felt and how grateful I was feeling. Before all of the coaching, my courses and studies, conventions and workshops and DOING all of the training, self-loving and accepting, I would NOT have been able to have admitted my mistakes and my traumatic childhood publicly ... I would always blame others for my problems and well, as many of you know, I eventually suffered terribly from anxiety, worry and eventually debilitating panic attacks which led me down a very slippery slope of self hatred. Being able to look at my fears as something positive (and an opportunity for deeper inquiry) is now a habit and I have all the resources and tools to cope, deal with and heal the nervousness, anxiousness, addictions and obsessiveness right in the moment! This has allowed me to attract more abundance, my dream man and my dream career! Love All-ways Tammra  Food, in it's whole form, is and has always been intended to nourish and naturally balance and cleanse the body ... what isn't mentioned in most articles or even education in school, about "eating healthy", is that most of our foods these days are lacking serious nutrition due to the pollution in our environment as well as being picked early, travel time, irradiation, GMO's, chemical fertilization and all of the "cides" (which actually means "death"). Organic foods will always be a much better choice but not everyone can afford them. What I did when I first learned about organic foods in 1993, is I removed processed and high fat foods, take out coffee and food from my weekly ways of doing things and I have saved enough to buy organic foods. I realized that nothing else in my life would be enjoyable if I wasn't healthy, so the switch was easier than I thought. I also noticed my cravings for sweets went way down. Even thought I have always been an advocate for supplementing with superfood & herbal juices, liquids, powders and capsules that have no pollutants in them and are tested for moulds, metals, pesticides, fungicides and bacteria, I also believe that food choices and even more so, our relationship with food is even more important. When it comes to supplements, we want to look for fair-trade, ethical and delicate harvesting and processing methods as well. Making healthier food choices will start the detoxification process and bring our bodies into more a more alkaline state, then, we can begin a more therapeutic approach to supplementation. I truly believe that one can achieve decent health through eating clean vegetables, fruits, ethically sourced meat, therapeutic measures including therapeutic nutrition, deep, cellular, juicing / fasting as well as reducing stress through somatic movements, stretching and rest and living as close to the land as possible. Excess or heavy exercise is actually a major stressor and could age the body more quickly, so athletes need twice as many antioxidants than the average person and adaptogenic herbs to keep the adrenals in check. Nutritional cleansing / juicing / fasting could help the athlete tremendously by providing quicker recovery and more oxygen to the lungs. Of course, this is just my point of view and I can honestly say I have seen too many people struggle for way too long thinking that exercise and crash diets is all they need and never see very good results ... yet when my clients follow a holistic and healthy eating strategy and add in the therapeutic measures above, they see excellent results and they rarely, if ever, experience the rebound (unless they have addictions or trauma - which is really something we have to address through other methods like NLP). Tammra's Holistic Nutritionist Tips: Mindset:
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Resourcefully Yours, Tammra  This video always brings a smile and a tear... need a seratonin boost today? Watch this...  Lead with your heart and YOUR PASSION and the rest will come right into place. Living your passion will get you closer to your little and big "whys"- I believe there is a reason for this. Our passion can only be our own and our passion comes from our heart not our head. Our "why" is usually things like wanting to retire our husbands or take our family on a vacation or retire our parents and all of those awesome things... which can lead to a lot of pressure... and then procrastination...
Trust me on this one. See... I put my passions on the back burner "until later" ... after allowing myself to be convinced for years, that what I do would never make me money and wasn't worth it ... and I saw myself starting to resent everything and everyone! I am happy to share that I finally tapped into my passions. I love learning about the human condition, working with the subconscious mind and studying neuro-science. I do agree that being away from it to discipline myself in other areas (more left brained) for a while gave me a new perspective and provided me with a sense of balance to a degree (until it went off balance) ... AND it also made me realize that sharing my tools for transformation gives my life purpose and motivates me to get out of bed in the morning with joy in my heart! So it happened for a reason and I have learned my lessons!!! Since making this HUGE shift, I have tapped into my own gifts again, and the skills and tools I have spent many years gathering - like 20 years gathering - and I have found an awesome way to share it with more people at once... and this has led to the doors opening way up and a new energy surge in all of my relationships! I am so INSPIRED to be working with people at the top of their game in many diverse areas and collaborating with people who have a bigger vision for their own lives and who want to leave a legacy for their family and communities. If you are stuck and haven't found your passion or can't find your way back to it, connect with me. Let's talk! Re-Source-Fully Yours, Tammra I have been studying people for many years now and these are only a few of the things I have been picking up and modelling from the people in my life who I see as conscious leaders... To me a conscious leader is someone who...
This message is for women out there who don't have children, like me. I want to wish You / us, a Happy Mother's Day and here is why...
As the saying goes... it takes a village! Thank you to all of the Spirit Mama's out there making a difference! I see YOU! I hear YOU! Note: I adapted this from something I saw online and I cannot find the source. Some are my own words or I have rephrased it.  We Have A Beautiful MotherWe have a beautiful mother Her hills are buffaloes Her buffaloes hills. We have a beautiful mother Her oceans are wombs Her wombs oceans. We have a beautiful mother Her teeth the white stones at the edge of the water the summer grasses her plentiful hair. We have a beautiful mother Her green lap immense Her brown embrace eternal Her blue body everything we know. Alice Walker  by Tammra Broughton Note: Some links are my personal affiliate links. I am hoping to spread this article across the world - especially to shelters, schools and counselling offices. I often hear and see how confused people are about Love and what it really is - I can empathize with their frustration! This article was an epiphany I had shortly after “failing” at a marriage and almost sabotaging a new relationship. This article could also be about your relationship with yourself, family, friends and partners ... as well as “God” or Spirit or Universal Life force, whatever you want to call It ... it’s within you. If you want to know if the guy or girl you are with is the “One” (for now), or take your relationship to next “realistic” level (with self or others) ... or you want to know when “the one” shows up ... then read on... I spent a weekend with a fellow student who has her private practice called "Better Choice " – counseling, coaching and consulting. She uses "Choice Theory" to explain why we behave the way we do, with her clients, friends and family. I was just staying with her because we both attend the same school studying NLP; Sheila is also my friend. As we drove back and forth from school, had dinner with her family and shared tea in the evenings she began to explain what Choice Theory is to me. She started out with telling me the reasons why people behave the way they do and that "we all have the same four basic psychological needs and one physiological need from the time we are born to the time we die. We all do our best attempt to have these needs met on a daily bases. Our daily behaviour can produce a healthy life or less than healthy life for ourselves. We all want them met, somehow. These five basic needs are: Love and Belonging, Personal Power, Fun, Freedom and then Survival. Ask yourself, how are these needs being met? In cases where there is addiction involved (of any kind) be very, very aware of how you are getting your needs met. Also ask yourself, are these basic needs even being met at all? They are always being met, either in a healthy or unhealthy way the best way we know how at the moment. All of the needs are of equal significance. In practice, the most important need is Love and Belonging, as closeness and connectedness with the people we care about is a requisite for satisfying all of the needs." Sheila then explained to me that "in life we all have to drive our own "car" and that our 5 needs are under the hood of our car." She showed me a few of the numerous cars she uses to teach people about driving their own car throughout life she pulled out some toy cars with Miss Piggy and Ernie. She told me that she does this work with people of all kinds, even corporate business men. She said that "most people aren't even driving their own cars and that sometimes we allow people to drive our cars for us" (children must be in the car with a loving adult or can be visiting with loved ones who can drive their kid cars for them). When I thought about this it made me think of how some people allow a parent (like a controlling mom or dad) to drive their car. Or they allow their partner / spouse or even a friend to drive their car. I know I have done this many times in my own life. Sheila said, "with depressed people, they aren't even in their car", she said “depressed people have left their car door wide open and are sitting on the side of the road.” My guess is that someone who is depressed (or someone who is depressing them-self) is allowing anyone who “seems to care”, to drive their car (my first guess would be the Doctor who prescribes the drugs to suppress the symptoms of depression – notice how I didn't say heal or cure … also this does not give a depressed patient any control over their own response-ability). Then she said something that really got my attention. Something that many of my new “teachers” have been trying to drive home to me lately. Sheila said, "the front wheels of your car are THINKING AND ACTING and the back wheels are EMOTIONS AND PHYSIOLOGY." Most of my life I have been re-acting from my emotions, always justifying my emotions, which is normal but I was not doing a lot of thinking logically and even less acting or simply doing something about it. Again this made so much sense to me. So now when I am feeling really emotional I ask myself these questions: Am I driving my own car” (also am I driving anyone else’s?) Is there anyone with me in my car? (should I kick them out?) Do I have all 4 wheels on the road and am I driving forward / am I moving?” Another incredible thing that Sheila did while we were visiting was she would catch me saying “He convinced me that it wasn't worth... she made me feel terrible... I felt so hurt because they... They made me think that I was useless...” What's very interesting about this is that I am very aware of language and words people use, and thought I was hearing my own words, yet when I would get stuck in an emotional state I would say things like this. Sheila would stop me and say “You chose to feel terrible because...” “You chose to be convinced by....” “You chose to be sad because...” Like I said above ... “She choosing to be depressed (unconsciously)... or she was depressing herself because...” (Be /cause). Now I am able to catch this before or after I say it and it's extremely powerful because I am back being the cause and real-eyes I am choosing this behaviour, thus I am thinking and acting on a way to get out of a feeling loop and this gets all 4 wheels back on the road. I can then put the car in drive. Noticing this kind of behaviour in others is also a flag to let you know that the other person just may be looking for you to fill that void within them. If you do this for them this is may not be true Love and could only cause a weak link in the relationship and could be very exhausting and draining. We have all heard that interesting word “enabling”. This “catching myself” is already helping me a lot with building my career as well as I am finally beginning to understand relationships, past and present. What happened next was the quickest most instant wake up call I think I can ever remember having. It's so very crystal clear to me now! Sheila gave me a book called “What is This Thing Called Love” by Dr. William and Carleen Glasser. I feel as though I must share what I learned from this book because it's the kind of information the school system could add to “sex” education. Also, this could save people from getting into the wrong relationship, from having babies that eventually grow up in a dysfunctional family because the parents couldn't get along, could save a lot of pain and heartache caused by divorce. This could even help to stop the spread of STD's and the vacancy felt from a one night stand. Are you ready to know What Love REALLY is? I won't go into too much detail about the book other than to say the couple in the book thought they were in love but the woman felt like something was off when her partner would say “I Love You”. They argued a lot but they thought that this was normal in a relationship and like many, sadly, they thought if they argued then they could have make-up sex. This they thought was also making Love. The woman was very clear about wanting to get married (or some kind movement / progression) because she thought that this is what people do when they are in Love and wanted to grow with him into a healthy and functioning family. But the man did not want to move forward and asked her to wait. Saying “I am happy where we are, why the rush? We will get married, I promise, just not now.” Three years passed and she decided to see Dr. Glasser and together they never did any therapy, but they did begin a lengthy and deep dialogue about Love. The conversations were recorded and she openly shared this with her partner. She invited him to come and he agreed because it was not therapy it was a discussion. Basically she eventually realizes that it's the idea of Love that her partner is in love with, not her. She felt as though they were "stuck" (no movement, no growth, stunted). That what has been taking place is a fantasy. Dr. Glasser says that if we live our lives in love with love, in this fantasy you might as well be a prostitute. To me, this is using people and when the infatuation is gone, like it always does to some extent, a person in love with a fantasy will get bored of the person they are with. Side note: use NLP and hypnosis to access and anchor those first love feelings, they are always there! Another huge part of the success for a loving relationship of any kind and even more importantly one-self, is that it is vital to completely eradicate these LOVE KILLING HABITS: criticizing, blaming, coercing, bribing, punishing, threatening and rewarding to control. Avoid the above Love killing habits for one week and see what happens in your relationship. ALSO be aware of when you do it to your Self. Then ask if you are creating these LOVING, CARING HABITS and ask: “Am I supporting, encouraging, listening, accepting, trusting, respecting – are we equally negotiating differences?” I underline "negotiating differences" because this doesn't mean giving up your dreams for another person, the flexibility has to be 50-50 and that is love ... if the other person cannot see how important something is to their loved one then they may not have the true unconditional Love that is required to maintain the relationship. Ask these things also of yourself and practise them until the love killing habits are gone. Once we are completely full of truthful self-love then and only then can we grow, progress and cultivate a relationship with another, both facing the world together, otherwise we will desperately need to get that love from another person which usually leads exploiting each other. In fact, if I could be happy with myself and never worry that someone might never want to be with me, this would be the ultimate in self love and my guess is that someone would literally appear right before my eyes the very next minute! Love, simply and clearly put = COMMITMENT. Bottom Line. I really get this! I was never taught to practise this kind of self care, this valuing of my personal space nor did anyone ever model it for me growing up (that I am aware of and it wasn't likely taught to our guardians) so now why would I ever want to allow anyone to be in my space that wasn't willing to make a commitment to a co-creative relationship that has an outcome signifying real exciting growth? When there is no love or when there is only being in love with love then would sex, too, be just a fantasy? The way I see it is that infatuation is fun and can be done without the act of sex. Once the infatuation is gone, and there is a real and clear commitment, then Love can blossom. If you make this commitment right now to yourself, to be aware of fantasies and gift yourself this True Love, then you must love yourself a lot. Imagine what this can do for religion / spirituality. I hear it all of the time “I practise spirituality but my life still sucks” if this is you, read this article again. Or better yet read Dr. Glassers books on Choice Theory and Love. So, where does this leave me in my own life? I have decided that I am filling my own personal love tank back up to the top ... again. If no person appears to be a match (someone who's Love tank isn't full for themselves) that's ok... I 'm not looking for someone to fill a void or heal my wounds. I am happy to say that rebounds are a thing of the past and anyone who thinks I would ever just have sex with them without any commitment now, can be either just a friend or could simply be deleted from my peripheral vision all together. I am owning my power again and it's empowering. To me this will clearly weed out the people who are living in a fantasy world. Trust me, if you say commitment and they run, it wasn't Love, it was a fantasy. ... UPDATE: It was only days after writing this (and 3 days of liver / gall bladder flushing - search Dr. Hulda) - I told my new man Tony, that I wanted a commitment and showed him this article, now we are engaged, standing side by side, facing the world together...  If I may share some important information from my training in NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) these past 6 years on giving advice / feedback / comments.
1. When giving people constructive criticism / feedback / comments and you don't already have a coach / mentor agreement with them - then it's so key to always ask permission to give that person feedback so they can be prepared and grounded, otherwise- they could be triggered. When working with couples and families - or clients wanting better communication -- I always start with this one as well. My beloved Tony and I do our best to ask before we give each other advice or feedback. I try not to even use the word "add-vice" anymore. So we ask of it's ok to give the other, feedback. That person then has the right to say no or yes, and be ready to listen or not. 2. On the receiving end... One of my favourite responses to feedback / comments, whether it's what we want to hear or not and whether we were asked permission for it or not, is "thank you". We spent a few hours in my NLP class saying "thank you" to comments whether they were positive or negative. I realize now that is because when I defend myself, I take myself out of my own power. If the issue is worth addressing then I take it to a phone call or a meeting so as to connect with heart and do it well after reflecting on the comment. I have found this "less than easy" in the past and it's a work in progress. Of course, there will times when the feedback is highly inappropriate and you'll decide then what is the best next step for justice... In any case, feedback is by far the best learning tool for me personally. I remain open (in safe spaces) and coachable and I also know when it's important for me to stay true to my own heart, code of ethics, values and path. It's the WAY that I handle these situations that is key. Rather than react or let something "eat-away" at me I now have the tools to meditate on it, track it or say something about it. I always know that whatever I require for my highest good is already here ... and this makes it easy to stay flexible, forgive more often and learn what I need to learn and keep growing into wholeness. OR to take action on it, such as is the case in situations where something could be classified as harassment and beyond. I hope this was helpful. It sure was for me when I first learned it. Communication is becoming easier and it helps me to be a better listener ... everyone wants to be heard. Re-Source-Fully Yours, Tammra From many years of studying NLP and holistic nutrition, being mentored and coached by some of the most influential and successful people in the world as well as going through my own downfalls and wins I can honestly say "modelling excellence" comes down to 7 main traits:
1. COACHABLE ~ Being open to new ideas and feedback from experts. 2. RISKING IT ~ Willing to take big risks. 3. FLEXIBILITY ~ Willing to fail and learn from mistakes. 4. PRACTISE ~ Doing it again and again. 5. TENACITY ~ Willing to be mocked and made fun of. 6. FUTURE HISTORY ~ Focusing on the outcome with precision and clarity. 7. PERSISTENCE ~ Loving oneself no matter what happens and starting again and again. Find YOUR Rhythm - Rock YOUR Groove
Well - what a night! I dj'd for 5 hours straight and couldn't think of a better way to bring in the new year than with the love of my life and some really cool, down to earth people!
2013 was a roller-coaster ... I started out 2013 with this big plan to get in the best shape of my life and had some very big goals for my business ... and both of these things stretched me into unknown territory ... UNBELIEVABLE and awesome things have happened. I found out I had a nasty pathogen in my gut and supposedly due to stress, from a few years ago, now PTSD this sucker got aggravated and caused an ulcer which had been bleeding for some time ... this led me to finding out I was a dangerously low in iron and my doctor was shocked that I didn't appear to be sick because he said that, people in my position usually have a lot of infections... not me, not one. He said I couldn't exercise for a serious lack of oxygen in my body. So, my dream of being in the best shape of my life fell by the wayside and when I tried to do any kind of major exercise it would wipe me out for days ... the gifts? PATIENCE, FORGIVENESS and so much more. wow. Setting high goals in my business in 2013 helped me attract some new business partners who now want to go all the way with me... it also made me realize that I if I wanted to be a top leader I had to develop the daily skill-set that this kind of leader would have... and so it began again --- even more personal development, especially in the area of NLP and how to be and even better mentor and coach. Accountability was and will always continue to be the way I am able to stay in the game. I can see no other way to move forward in becoming exceptionally successful in my profession. The person I was even a year ago and my posture is entirely different and I can see so many new markers around me, proving to me this is the path I am so meant to be on and that dreams are coming true everyday! The bad days also teach me so much and I welcome them ... even though they suck, I know I am going to grow from it. I have a great foundation building in my personal and professional relationships and communication is getting better in each area. I see 2014 as the year I finally achieve the "big, hairy, audacious goals" I have been setting out for a couple years now... I am persistent and I am not stopping until I get there... because I get more and more clear on my WHY and since I don't have my own kidlets it has a lot to do with my family, friends and the collective human condition and our Mother Earth! So when someone comes a long and has something to say about my products or services or even my enthusiasm about my goals (believe it or not this does happen), I have trained myself to connect immediately with my why (and the importance of the why = my values) AND AT THE SAME TIME also be very keenly aware that others are suffering and that I was there ... in this case, I have also trained myself to respond (not re-act) with kindness and love and the fastest way to do that is to ask them a question about themselves in a loving, personal way. If they aren't open then I know I at least tried. Here is to an amazing, crazy, wild, easy, scary and unbelievable 2014. To you and yours, Love ALL-WAYS PS: I just realized that I haven't taken out all my gratitudes in my gratitude jar - which sat on my counter in my kitchen for the past year ... so hear goes!!! Did you do one of these? Here was my post on how to do one, from early 2013... below is my SMILEBOX wish for all of us ... In~Joy :)
 Even though this is usually a drink for a hot summer day I thought this would be an excellent choice for a New Year's non-alcohol drink bevvy! Enjoy!
Ingredients 4 cups organic pear juice 2 cups Rooibos tea, chilled 1 cup sparkling water or soda 1 pear sliced Fresh mint Lemon slices In a large glass pitcher mix tea with pear juice, pear and sparkling water or soda. Serve and garnish with mint leaves and lemon slices Serves 8 Adapted from recipe at tegatea.com  A collage-art piece I did with my Birthing of The Sacred Feminine Women's Circle. I am in a BEAUTIFUL Women's study group and I am loving it! Actually, come to think of it I am in 2 of them. One just ending after almost 9 months called Birthing The Sacred Feminine with my dear friend Pat Robinson and now a new beginning ...
I receive so many amazing messages and we meet weekly to share in wisdom, gratitude and break-throughs. This week an amazing poem was shared by a lovely young woman and I would now love to share this forward here with you! All the Hemispheres Leave the familiar for a while. Let your senses and bodies stretch out Like a welcomed season Onto the meadow and shores and hills. Open up to the Roof. Make a new watermark on your excitement And love. Like a blooming night flower, Bestow your vital fragrance of happiness And giving Upon our intimate assembly. Change rooms in your mind for a day. All the hemispheres in existence Lie beside an equator In your heart. Greet Yourself In your thousand other forms As you mount the hidden tide and travel Back home. All the hemispheres in heaven Are sitting around a fire Chatting While stitching themselves together Into the Great Circle inside of You. -Hafiz I got a bit of a sunburn sitting in the sun today! Fancy that! I just noticed this now...
SO here is a QUICK TIP: Take a calcium/ magnesium supplement of any kind. Use as directed or connect with me for more info. This can help to buffer acidity (among other things) in the body caused by the burn. Acidity can affect your immune system and weaken bones and even muscles and sunburns can make acidity happen too quickly. This remedy will likely also help the burn to heal WAY faster and make sleeping a bit better to boot. This can also be used with kids just use a much lower dose ... it's an excellent first aid remedy to have with you on camping trips and to keep around the home. The benefits of supplementing a good quality absorbable Cal / Mag with proper ratios and clean sourced ingredients have numerous benefits, especially for bones in aging people (and pets). I have done this with myself, numerous clients, friends and family with great success! PS: You can add in a B-Complex to help keep your beautiful tan too! RE-SOURCE-FULLY YOURS, TAMMRA No Matter what you think, you are all-ways more than that! Today I may have just reverted to my shaved head, punker boot, pissed off, 19 year old self for just a wee moment. It has been a long time since I have been this upset and disheartened... and not with anyone else but sadly, with myself. If you have known me in the past few years, you know that I mostly talk about positivity, finding happiness and being grateful. And well, this part of my life I love and well, I love all of the other parts of me as well mostly because I know there is only One of me and no "parts" so I love the shitty bits of my life too! Ha! OK, enough of that, seriously though, today it really hit me just how much of a run around ... a merry-go-round I have been on and even though I have come through some crazy stuff, this one really threw me for another loop! The worst and best part about this new news is that when something this big comes along I know the gift is going to be just as great... after breaking through severe panic attacks and phobias just over a year ago - that I had for about 5 years and the incredible journey it has taken me on, I now know to embrace new challenges with an open heart and mind. Here is what I posted to my facebook wall last night...  So that's it! This has opened my eyes yet again. The gift? Well, I have learned already that about 50-70% of all people have this *H. Pylori bacteria and I am now seeing that it can be related to many other, quite serious, diseases and GUESS WHAT, it's also linked to ANXIETY and Anemia! Helloooo! And is linked to PMS which has been nearly unbearable the past 6 to 12 months with wild mood swings. Well then I have to ask, have I had this little bugger this whole time and has it been a trigger? So, I feel really good about first starting with This guy Dave's suggestions after watching his video on youtube (see below), so I went to his website and read his E-book (first 3 chapters) and this seems like a legit way to roll. I already have eliminated many foods and since I have been a holistic nutritionist for almost 20 years now, most of the foods I haven't eaten in many, many years anyways, so this may be ok to do and I am actually excited to get started on a new way of life, as I said, yet again. AND, whenever I learn something like this, that could be affecting many people and now working through it myself, OBVIOUSLY I want to teach what I learn forward. I consider myself to be pretty self-aware and know my body, so if this can slip by me, then well, who knows how many folks out there have this and don't know it! One more thing - I wrote this blog post entitled "Journey to 40" and in it I created some calls to action and it seemed within days of writing that I could hardly get out of bed ... and I was then kind of beating myself up a bit thinking that I must be nuts to think I could be in shape again ... and that I was feeling so lazy and bloated yet was confused because I live a very healthy lifestyle (no drinkie, no smokeee, practise cleansing, take loads of bio-available nutrition...) so you can only imagine how fired up I am YET AGAIN to get through this, just like I always do!!! If you have landed here because you too have been told you have H. Pylori FOR GOODNESS SAKES DON'T BUY THE ANTIBIOTICS YET!!!! I wrote this blog for you so do yourself a favour and watch this video first and visit Dave's website http://www.h-pylori-symptoms.com and watch / listen to the testimonials! Please share your comments and what has worked or not worked for you. I want to know! I will continue to post on what works and doesn't work for me. I am starting with Dave's recommendation first though, that is for sure. You can find it HERE Love you with all my guts, bugs and all, Tammra  *Helicobacter pylori (/ˌhɛlɪkɵˈbæktər paɪˈlɔəraɪ/; H. pylori), previously named Campylobacter pyloridis, is a Gram-negative,microaerophilic bacterium found in the stomach. It was identified in 1982 by Barry Marshall and Robin Warren, who found that it was present in patients with chronic gastritis and gastric ulcers, conditions that were not previously believed to have a microbial cause. It is also linked to the development of duodenal ulcers and stomach cancer. However, over 80 percent of individuals infected with the bacterium are asymptomatic and it has been postulated that it may play an important role in the natural stomach ecology.[1] I used to think that being "free" was to live in the moment and living in the moment meant leaving my life up to chance rather that making conscious or "smart" choices. After a few years of severe anxiety, which led to panic attacks and phobias, I studied something called NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) and realized that everything I did in life was first, a decision and second, a choice made from that decision. I also learned that beliefs came from these decisions (not the other way around) and the decisions were made very early in life based on other people beliefs about their own life and also, their beliefs about me. Thankfully I woke up in 2008 and realized that I could uncover these unconscious decisions and change how I perceived them and this of course changed my beliefs. Are you still following this? I remember thinking in my early teens that I would grow up to be a single mom on welfare. Now I know that I have found a vehicle and the "tracks to run on" and I know my life has a much bigger purpose and rather than be afraid of my potential (or what other people might think of me) I ask myself everyday, what more is possible? How can I give to life as it has given to me? How can I empower somebody, anybody, today, on this glorious planet with the tools that have given me what seems like a second chance at happiness and love? Many people still don't realize they are the ones at choice, they are the ones in charge of their own life. Many people still do not realize that their beliefs may not even be their own and it's holding them waaay back from who they truly can become! If your life is upside down and you are stuck in a job that you don't want anymore and you don't get along with your family or your friends or things just aren't getting much better even though you are "trying hard" then maybe it's time to do a life review! It's ok to ask for help and take your beautiful life on a new, brighter path ... one that has a happy ending. You do have a choice. You are the one in charge of your life and your decisions. You can change old beliefs that no longer serve where you want to be in life by making new decisions about how your life can really be. You can walk a new path. The time is now, it starts with one single step...   OK everyone... I guess the "cool" people are probably out doing "cool" things on a Friday night but I have a fully booked weekend so I am staying in this Friday evening and after MAAAANNNY years of planning parties and partying, partying and more partying I am good (and lucky I am not dead really). Anyhoo, I digress ... I am starting something new and I am so excited! OK, so some people know that I love to post daily quotes to my facebook page and I am still going to do that because I know people love them and I find the whole process to be a great habit for myself too... BUT last night I learned a new amazing journaling tidbit about how to create my own quotes (and / or poems) and I am so excited to share this little exercise with you (this is also a great tool for workshop facilitators, super fun). Now usually the idea is to choose "words" from a pile but if you don't happen to have a box full of pre-made words (which is another project) then you can do this little exercise by choosing words in a book, or a few books / magazines. Write the words out as you choose them, then form into a quote or a poem. This can now be written in your journal, or made into quotes for around the house, vision board, picture frame and / or to post on your social networks. I have gone ahead and randomly chosen some words from different books in my office and I really loved all of the words, sat with them, arranged them into sentences and a poem and this is what I came up with so far! I have written these into a journal workbook that I have been creating in. This was waaaay too much fun and I will practise this often! I would LOVE to read some of your quotes / poems too! Please post them in my comment area below. Here they are: "Listen first, then walk on your ever-changing and infinite path of harmony." "A winner knows how to 'just be' in the quantum heart of nothing." Living Grand I thought these quotes might be fun to add to a photo too and look what I found! http://quote4fun.com/create/ and look what I made in just a few minutes...  I used to think Valentine's day was a joke but to be totally transparent I don't even really know where this pseudo holiday came from! There are many holidays and "days" that happen that I really don't know much about and it's probably because I wasn't raised with any type of religion. I was influenced by other's and their religion but my Dad, who raised me mostly, and my Mom never went to church or quoted the Bible.
My parents, including my Step-Mom, always did something fun for me for Valentine's day so I always looked forward to this special day as a child, then somewhere along the way I guess I grew out of it, or it wasn't cool or I dunno.... but now I love it again! So instead of going to do some research and pretend I even have a clue that I know what this day is about (and maybe one day I will) I decided that I would declare what Valentine's Day means to me and hope that someone will find it amusing. LOL - so here it goes...
I would LOVE to hear about what Valentine's Day means to you...  Friends who knew me, back in my very early 20's - when I was an annoying, evangelistic vegan, would tell you that to hear that I had a hotdog craving recently would be very surprising to them. I haven't been a vegan for about 7 years now but for about a solid 4 years I would not touch anything that was even near meat. You may be asking, well why did I quit being a vegan? Well that is another blog post completely. What I can say now is that I do recommend it as detoxification diet but one has to be very careful if they decide to make this a lifelong decision, which I would support granted they have worked with a health professional to learn about their body's specific needs AND have aligned their beliefs. OK, now back to the hotdog... Well, this all happened when I was doing what I call my "cleanse days" about 2 years ago, when all of a sudden I had this overwhelming craving for a hotdog. It actually stopped me in my tracks and I started to laugh. Now don't get me wrong, I have been known to eat a buffalo or organic smokey every meow and then, but this craving was different somehow. So I did what I recommend to my clients when they are on their "cleanse days" and that is:
OK! SOOOO! What did the hotdog craving represent for me? The craving took me back to a birthday party when I was 9, and it was one of the best birthdays that I could remember as a child... I had all of my friends there, we were having so much fun and we played for hours, playing with all of my new toys and I was in my glory. When I thought of this memory and how it related to my life in the present, I realized I hadn't been out much (in my new town), nor did I have any real friends yet. This craving and memory really inspired me to find out more of what was going on in my community, start showing up in my life again - like a re-birthday party for myself, and start building new and authentic relationships. This was a big step and now I have been making new friends and having a lot more fun, as well as having more parties and inviting new friends to join me... all thanks to a hotdog craving! What are your cravings trying to tell you? Love Tammra Wow, what a weekend! I went from having a tonne of fun, to feeling silly (because someone decided to tell me - publicly - what they thought about my brand, which I don't have yet and made some rather unnecessary remarks about a very dear friend), to feeling overwhelmed and procrastinatey (new word), to feeling like I was in trouble, right back to feeling like my motives had purpose again! Crazy! I just watched this happen to my beloved Tony this week too ... I saw how someone ripped into his dream and how this affected him and his excitement BUT then today had a friend email him and wanted to buy his product. Tony is so passionate about everything that he sets his heart and mind to and not everyone is going to understand why but now he sees that by staying persistent and consistent with what he believes can bring people joy, the Universe will give it right back! From a very young age I had to take care of myself. So I learned quickly how to trust my gut! I know that what I have to offer people comes from a solid, loving and grateful heart space........ So why am I writing this and why are you reading this? Because the title says "Persistence Trumps Dream Stealers" and this means you clicked on it because you have also had a similar experience, or 3 or 20... and you are still in and you still love it. Good for you, give yourself some credit! We know that many great inventors and many successful leaders were condemned for what they believed in but they forged ahead anyways. Only YOU know what your dreams are therefore only you can keep them alive. KEEP GOING! Someone is waiting for you to share your gifts with them...  |
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