What does self-love look like? 3 Doorways...

By honouring the love in and for myself, I honour my love for all. Since a life breakdown in 2006-2009 I came to realize that it's not possible to give to others from an empty love tank. It can work for a little while until one is completely drained and then may really need to lean on others for help and support. Sometimes, people are too proud- letting their ego get in the way- and won't ask for that help or think that health and happiness come without doing the personal development work. Or they keep themselves distracted all of the time and don't make time to be in quiet solitude, reflect inward and trust their heart. Too often, we see those people really suffer. These past few months felt like a fall from Grace for me. I got stuck in my ego big time. So I am coming full circle back to this place again...

I see 3 Doorways: Honesty, Love & Faith. We all have different perspectives but for me- I have known and seen this work well... 

1. Be Honest & Trust - with our self first and foremost and then with others. Then we can easily expect others to be honest and trust us (if we try and expect others to trust us but we have been dishonest with ourself- it's not likely going to work - trust me, I have tried) 

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2. Love - find ways to love ourselves- and fill up the personal love bucket first. From this place it will be easy to give love to others and one can expect to be loved by others (if we try to love others first or expect others to love us but we have been hating on ourself- it's not likely going to work and can lead to more ego based actions / feelings etc. which cause even more self hate) 

3. Faith - however faith looks - from this place of self honesty and self love and now trust and love with others, begin to have faith (or deepen your spiritual practice) whether it's creative inspiration, intuition or communion with God, Creator, Spirit or Universal Love - the faith connection comes when we are in the frequencies and consciousness of honesty and love first. The more we are in this consciousness, the clearer our frequencies are and the more faith-full connections can happen. 

Some people begin with faith and that is beautiful and can be done- but I have often seen those people still being dishonest and still giving love from a self-hate place. Give this a go- try it on. Who knows what could happen. Start with honesty... 

I then had no choice but to give myself as much love as I possibly could and can see clearly now, that this is a daily practise. ​​

I know that I was giving from an empty tank and my body shut down on me. I was being dishonest with myself and trying to convince myself I was fine. I then had no choice but to give myself as much love as I possibly could and can see clearly now, that this is a daily practise. 

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It's much simpler than people might think. For me it's eating more fruits and vegetables and smoothies, meditation (learning this on my own - but it's as simple as slowing right down- take a big breath in and scan the body for tension and consciously relax those parts- then close eyes and focus on breath- when the mind wanders- gently notice it and come back to the breath) and do this at least twice a day (10 to 15 minutes), yoga (at home - I first learned yoga from a book from the library and now use YouTube - check out Yoga With Adriene), reading books with a cup of tea or in the park, self massage (look up the Miracle Ball Method- this is a daily thing for me now) and getting outside as much as possible. Nature is a healer. It took me a few months to get to this daily practise but I trust it can be done. Some days it doesn't happen and I simply forgive myself and sneak a little stretching and a quick meditation before falling to sleep.  It makes a difference and then I know- i've poured some love into my being for the day.  

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Blessings & Love All Ways!
​~ Tammra