Wow, what a weekend! I went from having a tonne of fun, to feeling silly (because someone decided to tell me - publicly - what they thought about my brand, which I don't have yet and made some rather unnecessary remarks about a very dear friend), to feeling overwhelmed and procrastinatey (new word), to feeling like I was in trouble, right back to feeling like my motives had purpose again! Crazy!
I just watched this happen to my beloved Tony this week too ... I saw how someone ripped into his dream and how this affected him and his excitement BUT then today had a friend email him and wanted to buy his product. Tony is so passionate about everything that he sets his heart and mind to and not everyone is going to understand why but now he sees that by staying persistent and consistent with what he believes can bring people joy, the Universe will give it right back! From a very young age I had to take care of myself. So I learned quickly how to trust my gut! I know that what I have to offer people comes from a solid, loving and grateful heart space........ So why am I writing this and why are you reading this? Because the title says "Persistence Trumps Dream Stealers" and this means you clicked on it because you have also had a similar experience, or 3 or 20... and you are still in and you still love it. Good for you, give yourself some credit! We know that many great inventors and many successful leaders were condemned for what they believed in but they forged ahead anyways. Only YOU know what your dreams are therefore only you can keep them alive. KEEP GOING! Someone is waiting for you to share your gifts with them...
Are you a people pleaser? Do you need validation and approval from family, friends, colleagues, co-workers or your boss about your achievements? Well WE ALL DO, we all LOVE recognition ... but at some point when can we simply be happy with ourselves and KNOW in our heart that no matter what anyone says to us, we can be great? Does what they say really matter? Look at the big picture, will what they say matter in 5 years? Will we let them take us out of the game? Will we let them have that kind of power over us? We must learn to not judge them either, as this is like "drinking poison and expecting the person to die.." all we can do is learn to manage our own reactions.
Today is the day that you look yourself in the mirror, put your hand on your heart and declare "I AM ENOUGH!" and make a conscious choice to be around people who lift you up, who are healthy, who think positive, and breed a brighter future. Life is short, make it count! BE GREAT... it's that simple! Do your best to be great, in every moment, in every gesture, in every breath... and make being great about kindness, compassion, giving, receiving, asking for help, giving someone a hand with no conditions attached to it, smile at strangers, buy the next person in front of you in a line up, a coffee! The more you do this the more life will bring you happiness and greatness -- then rinse and repeat. Pour greatness into yourself first, then your family, your friends, clients, co-workers etc... Recognize others even for the littlest things... re-cognize greatness in yourself too, even more so... be great be great be great! As part of my intake process on my Lifestyle profile sheets, after I ask a client about all of their problems, symptoms etc., I ask "what is going right?" I would say about half of them fill it in. What if we looked at every situation in terms of how it could go right? I once worked with a client who was a Safety Manager at a Mill and after many years of no accidents there were suddenly a string of people getting hurt. This person blamed themselves, asking me what I thought was wrong with her. I asked her to explain the situation to me and as I heard her blame herself, I asked her "how it felt that she thought this of herself". I kept repeating this question until we got to the core of what she really thought about herself and why. It wasn't fun but we got to the core and she was able to accept that this is how she thought of herself and how this is who she became because of her own thinking and then I congratulated her for letting us go there and allowing it to bubble up to the surface, this time without any judgement, just acceptance. Then I asked the key questions "Is this true?" "Is this who you really who you are?" "Is this what people say about you?" and she said "No!". Then I asked her to write out the situation (including her safety talk) about how she would have rather seen it go. I said, "write it in the most positive way you can think of and be creative. Like you are telling a story" Well what happened next was most surprising to her. She still used words like danger, crisis, trouble, fear, and hazardous. Once she was finished I asked her if this was the ideal situation and she said "absolutely." I then asked her to go through and circle all of the words that were negative or caused fear. I could see the lightbulb turning on as she went through and circled quite a few scary words. I then asked if she thought her staff felt safe or more afraid by her safety talks. I just saw this look of astonishment on her face and she was speechless. I then said now go through and change all of those words into a positive and really take a moment to choose high power and positive words (using a thesaurus). We both agreed that this would be life changing for her career and that, of course, she had to follow regulations and protocols but that she did, in fact, have an opportunity to end her safety talks with a vision of true safety. Would it be fair to say that we all have an opportunity to tell a new story? Of course I went on to apply more of the deeper more integrative techniques of NLP, Hypnosis and Timeline Therapy™ While I was in Phoenix I hiked a mountain called Camelback. It was AWESOME! It's been quite some time since I hiked because, well, for about 2 years I had what is referred to as "panic attacks" and from that I developed a fear of heights among other things ... I am SO HAPPY to say that has been disappearing over the past 2 years now... Well as you can see in the photo to the left, my beloved Tony and I are sitting at the SUMMIT! BUT not without a few tears ... and moments of inner Zen along the way. I knew I had a little bit of left over residual fear around heights and with the help of a few other kickass ladies and the support of Tony I said "enough is enough" and it was time to OWN IT! I didn't get angry at myself or judge myself I just simply thought "this seems ridiculous and it's time to own it!". There were A LOT of rocks, so all of the way up and all of the way down it was like a squat marathon and with two knee surgeries on my left knee in the past, my right leg was working extra hard. Needless to say I could hardly walk for the next few days... So the running joke between Tony and I was: each time I had to walk a little faster or use some stairs, we would say "Own It!" for every right-leg step. It was pretty funny. It has become a bit of a motto around here! Feel free to share in the comments below how YOU will Own It in 2013... Wow, here we ARE! We made it! The Earth didn't explode into a star, we didn't get hit by a meteor, no one dropped the big bomb... in fact everything is still the same... or is it? That will be up to you and I. As I become more conscious of my words, my thoughts, my actions and create more positivity in my life, I know that this ripples outwards to others... so little by little, one happy thought at a time, one good deed or random act of kindness at a time, can all collectively empower the greater good. Or so that is what I have decided to be true. Ha! I am excited about a couple of things today. First, I want to share this great little project with you that seems to be a big hit on both pintrest and facebook. It's a Gratitude Jar ... the photo below explains the rest (click on the photo to go to my post on facebook and share it to your wall). Below the photo I talk about a few more things I want to share with you on this fine New Year's Day ... Whatever New Year's means to you, whether it's about celebrating who you have already become, or giving up some bad habits, or creating new goals or letting go of expectations, or maybe it's nothing at all- life as usual, all I ask is that you be KIND to yourself first, practice kindness to others and just be a good human. We can truly become whatever we think we can and so much more... Much Love always, Tammra
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Hi I'm TammraI live in beautiful in the Comox Valley in British Columbia, Canada and I am uber passionate about holistic health, music, art and being playful. Want to know more about me- read my story here. |